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What is a faerie?

 

Rise like a Faerie

We are part of the Radical Faerie tribe, a queer community of all ages, genders, shapes and sizes, races, and nationalities. We have no religion or dogma. But we are full of spirit. We are a conscious evolution of gay life. We refuse hierarchy and embrace consensus. We connect to life and each other through the blessings of nature. We are queer people exploring tribal life, sustainability, and harmony with nature.

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“The Faeries are both gay men, and men who prefer to use any other moniker that might describe them, as well as women who wish to be a part of the group, and people who choose not to be called men or women and beings who choose not to be called people. Faeries are organized as a group attempting to create community out of ritual and cooperation, except for faeries who are attempting to create community out of subversion of process and structure, as well as some faeries who wish to create chaos, often celebrating it, often not admitting it.
Many faeries are spiritual, lifting whole or part of their spirituality from any one of the world’s religions or spiritualities. Some make up their own. Some make a mix. Some react against spirituality and religion as it’s own evil, some find a spiritual path in reacting against spirituality.
Some Faeries just want to dress up in drag and perform in the woods, some want to dress up and not perform, some faeries want to dress up anywhere they can, some faeries don’t dress particularly different than they would in any other environment.
Some faeries combine their spirituality with sex, some don’t, some are part of the faeries just to get laid. Some resent that. some just want to drum by a campfire, and some want to camp far away from the drumming and get some sleep.
This is what faeries are, except for faeries for which none of this applies.”
by Constance Craving

Symbio

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A STATEMENT OF A FAERIE:

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LET’S ALL CREATE A WORLD

WHERE EVERYONE CAN CHOOSE ITS OWN IDENTITY AND CAN LIVE FREE WITH NATURE AS HE DESIRES
WHERE EVERYONE GETS REAL APPRECIATION
FOR HIS PERSONALITY AND
FOR HIS COMMITMENT
WHERE THERE IS NO LONGER A SINGLE CULTURE STANDARD
THAT SAYS WHAT IS CORRECT,
WHERE THERE’S NO COMPETITION AND NO ENVY ON THE OTHER!

NOT THE CIVILIZATION, WHICH CONSUMES INFINITELY MANY RESOURCES WILL SURVIVE BUT THOSE WHO HAVE LOWER ENTITLEMENTS.
THE POOR AND THE NATURE RELATED WILL SURVIVE, NOT THE EXPLOITING RICH  SYSTEMS!
WE LIVE IN AN ILLUSION!

THIS SYSTEM IS MORE AND MORE TRYING TO STUPIFY AND EQUALIZE US.
WE SUPPLANT TOTALLY WHAT IS REALLY IMPORTANT!
WE ACT MERELY TO OUR CONVENIENCE AND NO LONGER IN OUR TRUE INSTINCTS.
OUR INSPIRATION IS MADE ANY LOWER.
THE MEDIA ONLY SPREAD BOREDOM IN THEIR PRESCRIBED SPEED
ONLY  DOING MORE FOR THIER OWN SAKE!
THIS SYSTEM STANDS STILL!
WE DO NOTHING!
ONLY OUR WORLD WILL BE SLOWLY HOTTER!

EVERYONE TRIES TO ATTACK THE OTHER,
AND YET WE DO NOT TOUCH!
EVERYONE CHUMS  AND WE ONLY WANT MORE OF IT!

ONLY RESPECTING  EACH OTHER AND MUTUAL APPRECIATION TO HUMANITY LAUNCHES NEXT! WITHOUT LIMITING!
HUMAN BEINGS CAN GET ALONG WITH ANY BEING IF THEY ONLY WANT.
WE ARE BY NATURE SOCIAL BEINGS.
THIS CIVILIZATION AND THEIR VALUES DO NOT CONTRIBUTE A LOT.

THE SPIRIT OF THIS SYSTEM MUST BE CHANGED!
MANY RADICAL FAERIES TRY TO LIVE BY IT!

DON’T DREAM IT!  BE IT!

(Mata Hari)

 

 

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THE FAERIES

we are queers of all ages, genders, shapes and sizes

of all races, nationalities, faiths

who connect to life and each other

through the blessings of nature

the power of the heart

through listening and sharing our stories

through our bodies and spirits

and through humour, drag, song, good food, drumming,

trance, massage, ritual, play, sensuality, spirituality and sexuality

we are queer people exploring tribal life, sustainability,

and harmony with nature

queer people finding non-judgmental cooperation

and discovering subject-SUBJECT consciousness

(Harry Hay, founding father of faeriedom said queer men were naturally likely to view others with empathy rather than as objects, separate and there to be used… read more on wikipedia)

we have no religious dogma

but we are full of spirit

we refuse hierarchy and embrace consensus

and our passionate about empowerment

faeries meet in cities, on beaches, in forests and on mountains

wherever we are we create community of the heart

we welcome all who wish to explore living and being this way

 

 For us, being a faerie means:

· Faerie energy, faerie spirit

· Freedom, love and respect

· Mutual appreciation

· Having a family

· Letting your heart do the talking

· Physical, mental and emotional closeness

· Living a new identity

· Being connected with nature

· The joy of creativity

· Being able to share our uniqueness with others

· … being a different species perceiving a different reality“ (Harry Hay)

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How do you become more of a Faerie?

Answers:

Throw off the green frog-skin of hetero-imitation” (Harry Hay)

“Run in circles holding hands” (Will Roscoe)

“Maximize our differences from straights as an act of love” (Don Kilhefner – Assimilation or Affirmation)

“Outdistance the angels” (James Broughton – Shaman Psalm)

“Not be what the men create us to be” (Larry Mitchell – The Faggots And Their Friends Between Revolutions)

“Re-member our true nature[s]” (Mitch Walker – Visionary Love)

“Become less like a man and less like a woman” (Andrew Ramer)

“Choose the highest love” (Andrew Harvey – Rebirth Through The Wound)

“Let your strangeness be our guide” (Harry Hay)

“Threaten the very core of the patriarchies” (Paul Monette – On Becoming)

“Take…. delight in life and in the gay expression of it” (Ram Dass)

(Notes from the Blue Path Easter Gathering at “Faerieland”, Australia)

More answers by Mata Hari:

Go to Gatherings! (Only here you can feel like a real Faerie)

Never allow yourself to be put in a box! (You are much more than you think)

Don’t put others in a box! (Judging makes you unfree)

Be a rebel in your heart! (Only your heart and conscience is your boss)

Be everything you want to be! (Your hidden talent will be grateful)

Give Love, not suffering! (Tear up the sufferings chain, start new with love)

Go to Heart Circles! (What can be more beautiful than to look deep into the other)

Don’t be too critical in Non Faeriespace! (We still have to live with the other world)

Find your space in Faeriespace! (You will get so much respect)

Take yourself seriously, but not too much! (Your spirit of Joy is the most important)

Never give up! (We’re constantly renewing and we will be more and more)

 

Kissingawake-Flyer

 

I can’t tell you what a faerie really is, because we come in so many different variations and ideas. We are masculine and feminine … and all “heavenly” being in between – gay, lesbian, bi, transgender, no-gender … old, young, big, small …

Many of us come together to develop emotionally and spiritually, to share love and intimacy, to make friends for life, to work together and to finally be the way we really want to be.

To get there, we create a safe and trusted space that helps each of us open up and develop in community. Each one of us can contribute our creativity and participate in the rituals that fit our personalities.

We seek to strengthen our relationship to nature, sustainably and in harmony.

We share the common idea that the gay mainstream is not the only reality. We are not an organization – we are queer friends who are part of the worldwide “radical faerie” network and who call ourselves “Eurofaeries” in Europe.

Yes, those are my experiences.” (an Austrian Faerie)

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About the Radical Faerie Roots

 

The first call to ‘radical faeries’ was made in the late 70s by Harry Hay.

His call went out to those who “…know that there is more to us than hetero-imitation.. who are ready to move on.. who have broken through and are ready to share those breakthroughs”.

Called ‘spiritual conferences’, and held out in the desert in southern USA, the first faerie gatherings had as their aims:

“To share new insights about ourselves;
To dance in the moonlight;
To renew our oaths against patriarchy/corporations/racism;
To hold, protect, nurture and caress one another;
To talk about the politics of gay enspiritment/the enspiritment of gay politics;
To soar like an eagle;
To rediscover/re-invent our myths;
To talk about gay living/loving alternatives;
To experience the groundedness of the calamus root;
To share our gay visions;
To sing, sing, sing;
TO EVOKE A GREAT FAIRY CIRCLE”

Harry Hay was active in campaigning for gay rights since the 1950s – by the 70s he was horrified at how ‘assimilationist’ gays were becoming, so the development into faerie was aimed at providing spaces for queerkind to focus and develop our special and unique characteristics. Soon faeries expanded to welcome all queers, (it started as a gay men’s movement) at faerie gatherings and sanctuaries now all genders and sexualities are represented.

Faerie History In Europe

John Ferguson (Habibi Ding) brought the faerie spirit to europe, and the eurofaeries began their summer gatherings on the island of Terschelling in the Netherlands in 1995. Winter gatherings in Germany, Holland the UK have followed. These events have brought together queers from many countries. Funds raised during these gatherings enabled the eurofaeries to purchase land and create the first permanent Sanctuary in Europe – Folleterre in eastern france. Many gatherings take place at Folleterre but gatherings also continue at other venues in other countries of europe – keep informed at www.eurofaerie.eu

Keri Pickett’s deep and fascinating study of the Kawashaway clan in her book ‘FAERIES’ is teeming with personal stories and testimonies about the nature and pleasure of being a faerie. Some quotes:

“I think a faerie is someone who desires and attempts to be a free spirit. Gay men have been pounded down and told not to be ourselves since we were tiny. In order to find out who i am, I need energy to look within and find the inner child and to remind myself to be gentle with myself and learn to trust again….. Another part of being a faerie means digging in and finding out how you really feel about what you were told to feel or learned to feel, based on past experiences. LIghen the load. Leave the baggage at home in the trash heap.” Tea Lead

“Radical faeries are on the edge of the cultural norms. We choose our own rules as long as they are respectful of other human beings, spirits and the earth” Francine

“The powers of creativity, play and healing are rooted in our sexuality and our bodies. having a place where hugging and kissing is the norm, where warm physical contact is so freely given and easily received, seduced me into this community.” Karen

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Radical Faeries

(Lat. radix root, origin)

Like all fairies, they like the forest and water, the shine and the glitter. Fairy or faerie is an old derogatory word for gay in English. And the way it works with derogatory words: the best defensive strategy is to embrace it

The Radical Faeries were formed in 1978 by gay men in the Arizona desert. Harry Hay (1912–2002), the most well-known of them, was a colorful character. He believed in communism, even though the Communist Party didn’t accept gays. In 1950 he co-initiated the Mattachine Society, the first gay interest group in the USA. When he was a boy, he met Wovoka, a shaman from the Paiute Indian tribe, who started the spirit dance movement in 1890. Indian spirituality was important to Hay his whole life.

“You don’t have to look sexy”

“The idea behind the Radical Faeries was to create a space outside the homosexual mainstream where gays could discover themselves”, says a slender German who calls himself Eilendes Wasser (Rushing Water). “Being gay was a sign for Harry Hay. He believed that gays had certain mental and spiritual features. Personally, it helped me accept my gayness.” In everyday life, the 56-year old man is an attorney in the Rhine Valley. He was the one who brought the idea of the Radical Faeries from the USA. The “Eurofaeries” have been gathering regularly since the middle of the 1990s, and they bought Folleterre in 2004, a former farmhouse in France.

“No hierarchy and no dogma”, he sums up the philosophy of the faeries. “You can be Catholic, Buddhist or Atheist – the spectrum is enormous. You don’t have to look sexy, you can be old or overweight and you are still welcome.” The faeries see themselves as a conter-movement to the urban gay scene, where almost everything centers around how you look, fast sex and consumption. They divide up the costs of their gatherings, “But everyone can come, even if they don’t have any money. You can experience the most amazing things here – and free, at that!”

Silence in a circle

Even though there are no fixed rules, the faeries value a few traditions dearly. One is the tradition of having a faerie name. These can be names that most faeries give themselves, such as Lanai, Lappi or Fauny. Many faeries celebrate the festival of the seasons, such as the solstices or the springtime Beltane celebration. Another tradition is one developed by the founders of the Radical Faeries, the Heart Circle. This is when faeries sit in a circle and pass an object – a stone, a necklace – around in a circle. The person who is holding the object may speak as long as he or she wants to, but can also be silent. No one is interrupted and there are no discussions and no direct feedback on what someone said. What is said remains confidential. A Heart Circle can last ten minutes or eight hours, can be peaceful or dramatic. “You can come to a Heart Circle and find healing”, says Eilendes Wasser. “Many men have talked openly about their problems for the first time at a Heart Circle.”

Lumberjacks in ball gowns

Many faeries like to dress up in drag, gender-bending clothing. There are feather boas, ball gowns and hats hanging up in rooms with which the faeries can doll themselves up at any time. “I like glamour,” says Guillaume. “I like the way the faeries incorporate drag elements into their rituals. The faeries don’t take rituals so seriously. It’s principally a game for most of them. I like that.”

Enlightenment through sex

“There is so much touching and tenderness at our gathers that the need for excessive sex diminishes.” There appears to be an element of truth to that. The faeries really touch each other a lot – sometimes in a friendly way, sometimes in a sexual way. They hug each other long, sit on each other’s laps at breakfast, make out. Many faeries see sex as part of their spirituality. “There is an intimacy which is somehow not possible outside gatherings. It paves the way for things that go beyond the everyday.”

A turning point in life

For Lanai, spirituality is especially about being connected to nature. “To celebrate the beauty of the seasons, the sun, the solstice. I try to be a humble part of creation.” The peaceful atmosphere in the group of men is noticeable. Maybe its because they all hold hands and take three deep breaths in the morning before the organizational details are hammered out. Then the body is so relaxed that it can’t be thrown out of kilter so easily. The Eurofaeries are open to people of all genders. Some identify as queer, such as Lanai: “It’s about deconstructing the gender image we have been taught by society.” The days of men-only groups are long gone: “Yes, in the beginning it was about finding your gay self. But I believe that is going to open up more and more, and sexual orientation is going to be unimportant. I think it’s bad to judge people only based on that. After all, my cock is just ONE part of me.”

Extracted from WOZ Nr. 47/2009 from 19 November 2009

 

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Some of our INTENTIONS are also to

= SPREAD THE FAERIESPIRIT =

OF OUR TRIBAL VISION FROM FOLLETERRE

TO ALL THE FAERIES OUTSIDE OF SANCUARIES IN EUROPE

and TO CONTINUE THIS PROCESS BY

CREATING NEW EURO TRIBE VISIONS –

= WE ARE O N E TRIBE! =

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